You Try To Hide or Change Yourself
Do you feel attractive and desirable? Do you think people find you interesting? Are you fun to be with? What about your other qualities? Do you feel intelligent? What gifts and talents do you have? Are you caring and compassionate? Do people think of you as confident? Amusing? Beautiful?
In other words, do you consider yourself a ‘good catch’?
If you are like the majority of women, you will automatically cringe inside when you ask yourself these questions. Nearly all of us have enormous insecurities about our appearance, our value and our abilities, or all three. If you’re anything like me, you have felt at one time or another that almost every other woman is better than you in some way.
I’m not going to beat about the bush here….
You do not have an accurate view of yourself at all!
The trouble is that these insecurities are held on a very deep level of our minds and have come from conditioning throughout our lives, and are often even inherited. Perhaps your insecurities came from comments by your parents, perhaps you compared yourself with a sister, perhaps the children at school teased you, perhaps your ex-partner told you to lose weight?
Whatever the source of your negative thoughts about yourself, part of you will probably believe that if only you were prettier, slimmer, cleverer, younger, more amusing, more outgoing, more…..etc. etc. then everything would be better and you’d attract a wonderful partner into your life. However, while you are just ‘you’ being flawed and inadequate as you are, you’ll have to settle for whatever comes along.
The solution: your subconscious tells you that you need to change parts of yourself in order to be acceptable.
If any of this rings true to you, then you need to be aware of this fact and the adverse effect if has on you and your chances of finding lasting happiness.
Here is the actual truth – you are a wonderful, unique and beautiful individual with many gifts, talents and a lot of love to offer another human being.
Ok, so what’s the point of all this? Well, it’s all about INNER BEAUTY. Your inner beauty is the true essence of who you are. When you are in tune with your inner beauty and let that shine out into the world, other people will respond to it. Your inner beauty is centred around your heart energy: the love centre of your being. When you allow people to see the beauty within your heart they will see the real you, they will appreciate the uniqueness and the combination of qualities that makes you special. This is the beauty which attracts true love and closeness into your life.
Let me explain this another way. Think of yourself like a stunning mediaeval tapestry – each thread in the tapestry represents an experience, a characteristic, a gift, a feeling or a memory. Now have a look at the individual threads in your tapestry. Probably some of these threads are prettier than others when taken in isolation. Perhaps some of the characteristics are seen as weaknesses. Perhaps some of the experiences were painful. However, when you weave them all together they form a beautiful picture.
This is the picture of you – you as you are today – a unique picture with each thread, with each experience and each characteristic, being absolutely essential. If you try to change individual threads, all you’ll do is destroy the picture. If you accept that each is simply part of who you are, you understand that each in its way is perfect because the overall picture is perfect. Of course, you can grow and develop further as you move along your life path, but today, you are exactly where you need to be, and are exactly who you need to be.
Each time you try to deny a part of yourself, you are muddying the beautiful picture that is already you. By doing this, you are denying your inner beauty and blocking others from seeing it.
When you block your inner beauty, people won’t see the magic within you. Instead they’ll feel that something is awkward, artificial, uncomfortable or insincere. In this situation, you may very well end up attracting men who are only interested in your physical attributes, or worst still only interested in themselves!
So, to avoid falling into this trap, you need to get in touch with the authentic you, and find that inner beauty.
In the next post, I’ll be giving you some exercises and healing which will help you remove those masks, and get in touch with your inner beauty.
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